Showing posts with label anniversary. Show all posts
Showing posts with label anniversary. Show all posts

Sunday, August 09, 2020

Remembering a Marriage, Making a Life: An Essay in Photos

 My husband Howard and I met first in high school -- as pen pals in Canada's Centennial Year, 1967.  We met 'for real' in Montreal in the fall of 1974, and were engaged February 11, 1975.


We both had longer hair then than later, 
and I wore contact lenses most of the time 
instead of my "Coca-cola bottle" glasses.



With Mom and Dad
at the home of my Aunt Alice Rennie
Time to go to the church!


St. John's Anglican Church,
Huntingdon, Quebec
(est. 1834)

In the fall of 1976, with a dramatic change in provincial government from Liberal to the Parti Quebecois (Separatists headed by Rene Levesque), we decided to move West.  Howard's family was in Vancouver, but we opted for Calgary because my sister already lived there, and Howard had cousins there.  Besides, I told him, I couldn't bear 5 months of rain in the winter.  I needed snow and sunshine!

We found work, bought a house and in 1980, started a family.

The nursery was ready...

Our daughter, Gina Ruth, arrived
January 13, 1981


And then there were four...
Our son, John Martin, arrived
June 6, 1985

The kids grew...



And grew...




And grew...



There were family vacations




High school came...



Gina - 1998

Marty - Grade 11
September 2002



We got older too.  Howard's Type 1 Diabetes, which began to show its nasty effects as early as 1986, grew more destructive by the year.  There were many crises, surgeries, and a decade's worth of haemodialysis.  Still...we managed to get away on a cruise from Vancouver, B.C. up the inside passage to Alaska to celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary...


On our way!  Aboard a Royal Caribbean ship,
Vancouver, B.C., July 2005

A year later, he was gone...having marked 31 years together.


My mourning has not yet (quite) 'turned to dancing' as the Lord promised,
but there are many things for which I am grateful.


My reinvented life as an artist in a central Alberta rural hamlet on the rolling prairie.

Mirror, Alberta
Taken just after moving in, September 2008

Two grown kids whom I love with my life...

Who've gone on to higher education... 


Gina's M.Ed. - U of Alberta, 2008


Marty's BFA (Drama) - U of Lethbridge, 2008


At Marty's Dip. Technology Grad - NAIT
Edmonton 2014

 And who, despite the 4 1/2-year difference in their ages, and their very different personalities,
still manage to be able to get along when they're together!  😊



Celebrating Summer at Sylvan Lake - 2009


Edmonton, October 2016

With our parents gone, I've grown closer to my sister too...

With Wendy, July 2016

I like to think we're there for each other, no matter the miles between us.

My friends and colleagues are too many to enumerate, while my neighbours remain a source of support and help for this "widdy lady", as well as good friends.

It's been a good life thus far, despite the cares and struggles of illness, the loss of loved ones, the on-going challenges of aging, and the particular chaos that 2020 has brought.  

But I'm glad I'm here, expecting to mark my 68th year next month, having built a rich store of memories, with -- God willing -- many more to come.

Eternity in a ring
From HMB - Mother's Day, 1985,
now on my older hands.
On that wedding day 45 years ago, my step-father and I danced to a song that remains a favourite of mine when I think about how "...swiftly fly the years -- one season following another, laden with happiness...and tears". 






GMB 💕 HMB
August 9,1975 - August 9, 2006

Friday, August 09, 2013

Statute of Limitations

For six years, sow your fields, 
and for six years prune your vineyards
and gather their crops.
But in the seventh year, 
the land is to have a Sabbath of rest,
a Sabbath to the LORD.*

At the end of every seven years
you must cancel debts...
and let [your servants] go free.**

*Leviticus 25:3 (NIV)
**Deuteronomy 15:1, 12


On these passages, at least in part, the concept of a Statute of Limitations is based in Common Law.

Seven years...

My wonderful husband died seven years ago today.  Last year I marked the day with THIS post.

Seven years...

I have decided It Is Time for me to enact my own Statute of Limitations, to call for a Sabbath...

not from remembering him
not from remembering our marriage
not from being thankful for his life
not from being thankful for his legacy -- my children --

BUT

from the compulsion to publicly mark those special days
upon every anniversary 
or
birthday

INSTEAD

I will carry on the memories in my home
lovingly hung with photographs
I will light a candle 
in the morning
and 
in the evening
at my prayers
I will hug my children
even across cyber-space
and acknowledge and honour
their choices about remembering
even while I take a rest

I believe that God has new things
for Howard and me now.

It is time.

Rest peacefully, my love.

"For I know the plans I have for you",
declares the LORD,
"plans to prosper you and not to harm you,
plans to give you hope
and a future."*

Forget the former things;
do not dwell on the past.
See, I am doing a new thing!
Now it springs up; 
do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the desert
and streams in the wasteland.**

*Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)
**Isaiah 43:19 (NIV)





Friday, March 01, 2013

It Was a Lovely Party

I had such fun in February, celebrating my blog anniversary with all of you, Gentle Readers!  Thank you for tuning in, for posting comments and for celebrating with me.  I know a few new followers came on board during this time -- thank you for your vote of confidence!  I hope you'll continue to find my musings interesting.

Now it's time to wind up the final week of the party, by giving away the "Fabric Goodie Pack".  Once again I've called on my friendly Random.org...and the winner is Judy W of Explorations in Quilting and Life!  This really warms my heart, because a) early on last week, she admired the fabric; and b) she's a dear friend whom I first met at the SAQA Conference in Denver -- and who is going to be with me in Santa Fe, too...so I can bring her gift in person!  (I'll still e-mail you, Judy, so you have confirmation of your gift.)

A delightful way to start the day, the weekend, and a new month!

And on that note...time to get back to work!

Yesterday was full of paperwork, preparing the application for my daughter and I to share a booth in the Lacombe Art Show and Sale (April 19-21, Lacombe Memorial Centre, Lacombe, Alberta).  Here's the check-list:

  • Cover letter; 
  • Application form;
  • Printed photos of:
    • Booth set up (me);
    • Table set up (Gina);
    • Examples of recent art work (each of us).
  • Up-to-date Artist's Statements - each of us.
  • Cheque to pay entry fee.
Phew!  Once Gina sends me her Artist's Statement, the application will go in the mail!

The booth set up photo was a challenge, because it meant dismantling at least part of the stand that I use on an ongoing basis in my studio to hold a good portion of my fabric stash and supplies.  I decided to take apart only one side, and snapped this photo for the application:


(For an example of what Gina's table display of photography will look like, visit her blog post HERE.)

My stand has 3 sides, which I usually keep folded in a triangular wheeled base.  However, for the purpose of the show, they will be standing like this (photo from the same show in 2011):


For the 2013 show, I'm making a few changes:
  • Hanging the pieces with their dowels, using S-hooks to attach them to the bare frame, rather than pinning to fabric;
  • Adding a small hanging basket for my selection of wrapped miniatures; and
  • Mounting a professionally printed banner with my company name along the top of the frame (the white space in the above photo).
I discovered the banner on Vista Print two years ago, too late to order it for the 2011 show, but have it now and will use it this year.  I've also just ordered a batch of post-cards to give away at the show and at the SAQA Conference, which follows the next weekend.

What else is left to do?
  • Cut and prepare five dowels for newest pieces;
  • Attach hangers to the canvas-mounted pieces;
  • Order more clear packs;
  • Finish up-dating my inventory/price list;
  • Sew hanging sleeves on newest pieces;
  • Make and mount five more miniatures and at least one mid-sized piece (est. 16" square, finished).
The seed stitch is finished on "Trio II", and it's mounted, thus:



I'm going to have to ask Gina how to zoom in on small works like this, so I can show you more details.  I really tried to do that with this one, but the results were all a blur.  You'll just have to come out to the show and see these "up close and personal"!  ;-)

That list ought to keep me out of trouble till Decision Day (March 22), eh?  And if we're not accepted...well...it will be a disappointment, but think of all I'll have accomplished in the process!

Hooking up with Nina-Marie's Off the Wall Friday...and heading back to the sewdio.  Thanks for dropping by!


Thursday, February 28, 2013

Ending on a Sunny Note

Ending the month, that is.  I've been thinking; isn't it odd that we can -- at the very same time -- wonder if winter will ever end and where December, January and February went?!   (C'mon now; you know that's true -- that's exactly what we do!)

To end the month on an appropriately sunny note (whether it's sunny where you are or not), here is the last of my "Quilty Vitamins":



"Sunflower Sunrise"!  This is a pattern  from Letitia Hutchings via Mount Redoubt Designs, for a lovely hanging -- a bit three-dimensional -- that finishes at 18" x 42".  (I tried to find direct links to both Ms. Hutchings and www.mrdquilt.com, but cannot.  Mount Redoubt's website is apparently undergoing a make-over so if you want to view it, try it and see...)

And the winner of this bit of sunshine is... L.E. of Elly Knits!  I will be in touch with her...and hope that she enjoys quilting as well as knitting.  If not, perhaps she has a friend or family member who quilts...

I'm off to a slow start today, as I was home late from the wonderful "Evening with C.S. Lewis" at Deer Park Alliance Church in Red Deer.  This was part of a fund-raising tour for World Vision, for which David Payne, the actor playing Lewis, is a spokesperson.  In addition to Lewis, Mr. Payne has portrayed the apostle Paul (as he was while under house arrest in Rome) and Aslan the Lion in The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe.   If you get a chance to see one of his productions, I highly recommend you do so! (See the link above for tour dates.)

So now...I must get back to the studio.  More later!

Wednesday, February 27, 2013

Mid-week Miniatures

A bit over a week from now and I'll be six months past my sixtieth birthday.  Six decades plus and I am still resisting the life lesson that "It takes as long as it takes", whatever it is.  I wake up each morning with a list of what I 'plan' to do...but rarely do I get it all accomplished, even if it's a short list!  And we all know full well that when we use the excuse, "Life got in the way"...well -- we were the ones getting in our own way, weren't we?!

Yesterday I 'planned' to make two miniatures and lay out materials for a mid-sized piece.  Well.  I got one miniature finished.  The sewing machine fought with me over the thread painting, even after I'd cleaned the bobbin case, changed the needle and tried several combinations of top and bottom thread.  By then it was late afternoon, I'd worked (fought!) through my usual jogging time and needed a break, so I sat with my coffee and read some of the blogs I follow.  In this lovely little post from my former watercolour teacher, Sharon Lynn Williams, was this nugget:

"How little can I say and still say the subject?"

She was quoting someone -- I don't know who -- but it made perfect sense.  I didn't really need that thread painting in the centre of this piece; the hand-dyed fabric could 'say the subject' all on its own.

Prairie Autumn (c) 2013
Inspired by a photo taken by my husband years ago
somewhere near Millarville, south of Calgary, Alberta

And now for today's mid-week treat, the second of my one-a-day "creative vitamins"!  The wee gift today is





Tulip Medley SBD142 is a pattern designed by Coral Love of Sagebud Designs,  for a paper-pieced and applique medallion-style quilt that finishes (as shown) 58.5" square.  I don't think the company has a website but it's located in Chico, California and markets patterns through "The Pattern Peddlers" and other venues.  I admit to purchasing it in a weak moment when I thought I might eventually get the hang of paper-piecing (the North American version, not the English, which I love and can do!).  Though a very pretty piece, with the clarity of age, I realize I will never be inclined to that art...and so pass along this unused pattern to Gill -- who will hopefully enjoy it and/or pass it on herself and share the love.  Congratulations, Gill, and I'll be in touch with you for your mailing address!

Now...back to those miniatures!



Tuesday, February 26, 2013

One a Day...

Quilty "Vitamins" to (hopefully) spark your creativity or liven up your project list -- or simply brighten a dull, wintry day.  :-)

As this is the last week of my "10th Blog-aversary" celebrations, I thought I'd give away a treat-a-day for the last 3 days of February.  I have three quilt patterns to share...and the first one is a packet of instructions for four different quilts designed by the Queen of Kaleidoscope Quilts, Paula Nadelstern.


As in the past two weeks, the names of all past commenters have been expunged from my memory (!) and I've begun a new list from the first 'Fabric Week' post on February 22 through this morning.  Names will continue to be added through Friday at 7:599999 a.m. for the 'big' draw that day... but for this morning, I went to my friendly draw-master, Random.org, and the winner of this packet of patterns is... Kitchener Quilter!  I'll be in touch with her by e-mail as soon as this post is published, so I can get her postal address and mail off her treat.

In the studio today: two more miniatures, and the stitching of sleeves (hanging, that is) on three finished pieces.  More later...have a great day!


Friday, February 22, 2013

Last But Not Least

Week Three of my 10th "Blog-aversary" celebrations begins now -- and it's all about fabric -- or at least, quilting with it.

In the scheme of things, I haven't been quilting that long.  I learned to knit from my mother -- as I mentioned last week -- around age 8.  Mom knit till she couldn't see to do so (about age 85).  Her mother knit (Grandma D died in her seventies, when I was a toddler); my father's mother knit, my father's sister -- my dear Aunt A -- knit into her early nineties (she died at 94 in 2002).

But my Grandma R -- my father's mother -- was also a superb seamstress who created patterns out of newspaper and made her farm family's clothes, all on a treadle machine, and who quilted.  I still have a pink and white single Irish chain that she made me, which I used on my bed in my first apartment, but which was torn one summer when I was away and someone else was 'apartment-sitting' for me.  It now hangs on a quilt rack in my guest room, along with several of the quilts her daughter -- Aunt A -- made for me, and the Golden Wedding Ring given my parents (I commissioned it) on the occasion of their 25th wedding anniversary.  These quilts are pieced by machine, but all hand quilted by a group of women in my home town who met regularly around a frame.  I'm not sure if my Aunt A was one of them or not.  And most of them were constructed of fabric scraps -- many sent to her by me -- from garment sewing.  The only 'new' fabric bought for them, latterly, was for backing and maybe backgrounds or binding.

I still use several of these quilts on the two beds in my home, but they are wearing, and so I joined Bonnie Hunter's Mystery Quilt-along for the past two years so that now I have tops to replace them.  I enjoy the quilt-alongs so much, and have enough stash so that I can see myself doing this for a few more years at least!

I've sewn since about age 11, when I took my first Home Economics classes in Grade 6.  Half the year was spent cooking and half, sewing.  I'd just started to embroider at that stage, and still have the little felt needle-book we each had to make as the first project in our sewing class.  I think in Grade 7 we made an apron -- mine was turquoise and white gingham, and I think I still have it somewhere (it still fits!).  In Grade 8 we learned gathers and casings with a peasant blouse and gathered skirt.  By Grade 9 things were more complex, and I think that's the year I made a wool suit -- straight skirt with waistband and back zipper, and a jacket with a notched collar and bound button holes.  I wore that thing for years whenever I had to look particularly spiffy for lunch or a meeting or function.  My last year of Home Economics was, as I recall, Grade 10 -- I took 10 and 11 together and wrote my final exam at the end of that year.  The project was home decor-related and my first experience with a teacher (not the one who'd taught me to that point) who had no imagination.  But that's another story!

When I got my own apartment in university, my parents bought me a second-hand portable sewing machine that weighed a TON and had all kinds of fancy 'bobbins' for decorative stitches, which I rarely used.  I used that machine till one day, in my married-with-kids life, I dropped it, and it died.  I'd been making clothes for myself and the kids, but by this time my daughter was taking sewing lessons and making her own.  Her teacher was a neighbour who had a "Kids Can Sew" program through Husqvarna, and when after the first three years she had to turn over her sewing machines, she offered me one at her original cost -- and carried the warranty on it for a year.  I was thrilled!  It had a free-arm!  Now I could do set-in sleeves without sweating!

Of course, by then I was making fewer garments altogether, let alone setting in sleeves!  And my DH's Type 1 Diabetes was really starting to rear its ugly head, meaning that my stress level was going 'way up.

Enter two dear friends who are quilters.  They opined that cutting and sewing strips of fabric would soothe me, and give me an outlet besides knitting and cross-stitch (the type of embroidery I favoured at the time).  I fell for it, went to a couple of demo-type classes...and then found My Sewing Room (smaller then than it is now) and the Magic Tiles quilt pattern by Kathleen Bissett...and fell all the way down that rabbit hole.

I took a few classes in silk ribbon work and crazy quilting, having found the CQ block done by my grandmother -- Maria Flood McIntosh -- with her maiden initials and the date embroidered on it (1894).

Then I saw an exhibit of patchwork and contemporary embroidery by the City and Guilds students of Gail Harker (there was a class of 8 in Calgary, which she taught as a single group, even coming up from Oak Harbor, WA to do so)...and I said to one of those dear quilting friends, "I have to do this".  I met Anna Hergert there...took a class from her, and another and another...and..."The rest", as They say, "is history".

Here's the last of the three Goodie Packs I prepared as gifts for the Gentle Readers who, by virtue of commenting on blog posts through the past couple of weeks, rendered themselves eligible.  All comments from Weeks One and Two have been dispensed with, for a fresh start.  Again this week, the winner of the package shown below will be drawn from all the readers who leave comments between when this post goes 'live' into cyber-space, and about 8 a.m. Mountain Standard Time on March 1, when I make the final draw and the party ends...

Remember: your name is entered each time you comment, whether on this particular post or on subsequent posts through the week, even if you comment every day.  :-)



This last gift pack includes:

  • A pristine copy of Quilting Arts magazine -- June/July 2012 (they sent me two!), which includes an article by cyber-friend and SAQA colleague, Regina Dunn, as well as others by Lyric Kinard and Jane Davila and my every-issue-favourite, The Goddess of the Last Minute, Robbie Joy Eklow;
  • A pristine copy of quirky quilting: 20 easy and fun projects by Tomme J. Fent
  • A pristine quilter's journal -- A Patchwork Notebook -- from quilting legend, Jinny Beyer;
  • And the pattern and fabric for "4-Patch Furrows".  The pattern is from Quilt Country and the fabric is enough for the top, including the 'zinger' border (the blue) and outer border.  (You're on your own for backing and batting for this 70" x 99" quilt top -- or for whatever else you decide to do with the fabric!).
And just as in previous weeks, there'll likely be a surprise gift or two given away between now and next Friday...Y'all come back soon, y'hear?  :-)


The End of Week Two

In the ongoing celebration of  my 10th anniversary as a blogger!  This past week was focused on knitters, with a couple of treats given away mid-week.  Such fun!

Now it's time to announce the winner of the Knitter's Goodie Pack:



Once again using my faithful companion, Random.org, and including all commenters from February 15 through to this morning (just before this post)... the winner is...Regina!  How lovely to be sending this package to a fellow Quebecoise (Mais oui!  Je viens de Huntingdon, QC, au sud-ouest, pres de Valleyfield et Chateauguay...)!  I will be in touch with you momentarily for votre addresse postale.  One of my Tuesday Treats winners found my congratulatory e-mail in her 'spam' folder, so do keep an eye open for it, Regina!

Stay tuned for the Finale of my celebrations -- Week Three is all about Fabric!

Friday, February 15, 2013

For the Knitters

When I began this blog, I called it "No Idle Hands" -- taken from both the proverb ("Idle hands are the Devil's workshop") and from a book of the same name by Anne L. Macdonald -- subtitled, "The Social History of American Knitting".  It's quite the tome, and I confess I still haven't read it!

Later, I changed my blog title to "The Lady Who Knits on the Bus" -- my nickname at the time, given me by one of my fellow-commuters, who was fascinated by the way I passed the 1/2 hour or so to and from work every day.



"The Lady Who Knits on the Bus" was also my blogger URL (before I registered my name as my domain) and the initials TLWKOTB are still part of my signature whenever I check into Clara Parke's Knitter's Review Forum.

I learned to knit over fifty years ago and despite all the quilty goodness you see going on on this blog, knitting remains my first love.  I rarely pass a day without knitting, and there is always some in my tote.  That's right: tote.  I don't carry a purse; I carry a knitting bag with a wallet in it! Currently I'm working on UFOs with great intention.  In my hands at right is the body of a camisole, knit in one piece from the bottom up.  The yarn is 'Desire' from Diamond Yarns -- bought long enough ago that it's now discontinued.  It's a yummy blend of 75% silk and 25% cashmere, and I must have bought it at a discount from Elann.com, or I doubt I could have afforded it!

The pattern is "Silk Camisole", found in Last - Minute Knitted Gifts by Joelle Hoverson; the bookplate I put in the front shows I bought it in 2004.  Heaven knows how long ago, then, I got the yarn and began the cammie!

All this is to say that today begins Week 2 of my 10th Blog-aversary celebrations, and the Goodie Pack this week is for yarn lovers. (I apologize in advance to crocheters; feel free to enter and enjoy the pack if you win, but I don't crochet (except chains for edgings and very wonky Granny Squares), so what you see will generally be knitter-related.)


The pack includes:

All comments from Week One have been dispensed with; it's time to start afresh.  As before, all comments to this blog post and to every post between this one and 8 a.m. Friday, February 22 will be eligible for entry into this give-away (even if you comment more than once).

And...as in week one, there might just be a surprise draw for a treat or two in between now and then.  So...my yarny friends, do please drop by and say "Hello!"  :-)






The End of Week One

in my 10th Blog-aversary celebrations.  It's time to announce the winner of these goodies, celebrating the craft of hand-stitch and embroidery..."Floss":



Using Random.org again...and all names entered (even more than once) by those who commented all week long (into the wee hours of this a.m., prior to this post)...the winner is Jenny of Quilt Skipper!  I'll be in touch momentarily to get your mailing address, and try to get the package off to you today.  Enjoy!

Stay tuned for Week Two: "Fibre", as the celebrations continue!

Friday, February 08, 2013

1,000 Posts! 10 Years!

It's a few minutes after 8 a.m. here in Central Alberta (that would be Mountain Standard Time), and it's time to start the celebration!

(Pause while I run outside to snap a couple of photos of pink cotton candy clouds against pale blue sky in the aftermath of the sunrise...)

Now...where was I?  Oh yes...The first Goodie Give-away!  "Floss" is the category, and here's how it's going to work.

Anyone who posts a comment on this blog post or on any other of my posts between the time this goes "live" and 8 a.m. MST on Friday, February 15 (that's a full week of posts) will have his/her name put in the draw for the Stitcher's Goodie Pack featured below:


This pack includes
Lest you think, "Hmmmph! I'm not interested in that traditional stitching stuff!"...remember, you might be able to pass on one of the items to someone who is...or you might want to use the beautiful threads, beads etc. in some other creative project.  It's my anniversary gift to one lucky Gentle Reader...postage included!

And yes, if you comment on more than one post between now and 8 a.m. MST next Friday, your name will be entered in the draw more than once.  :-)

And then again...there may be additional mini-surprises with the 'floss' theme through the week.  Stay tuned, and have a great Friday!



Thursday, February 07, 2013

Nine Ninety Nine

Photo courtesy of FreePhotoBank


Yep.  Tomorrow is The Big "Blog-aversary" -- 1,000 posts and 10 years of blogging, all wrapped up in one sweet day!


To celebrate, there will be a give-away each week for the next three.  In keeping with my company name -- 3F Creations: Fabric, Fibre & Floss...Here's what awaits...

  • Week One: 
    • When?  The week of February 8-14, 2013.
    • What?  Floss!  That is...stitchery stuff, for the embroiderer in you.
  • Week Two:
    • When?  The week of February 15-21, 2013.
    • What?  Fibre!  For my yarn-loving friends, especially knitters.
  • Week Three:
    • When?  The week of February 22-28, 2013.
    • What?  Fabric!  For my quilty friends.
Details on how to enter each draw, and photos of the goodies for each, will be posted weekly, as each one comes up.  

And...there might even be some surprise drawings in between; you just never know...

THANK YOU to all of you, Gentle Readers, who've stuck with me all these years, and those who may be new to this weblog and my ramblings.  THANK YOU to those who've blessed me with 'awards', and to those who've shared my posts on their own weblogs. THANK YOU to Blogger for an easy-to-operate platform on which to work.  And THANK YOU to the One who's given me the gift of writing and the blessing of all my cyber-friends through this weblog.

Let the celebrations begin!



Thursday, August 09, 2012

Anniversary



We clasp the hands of those who go before us,
And the hands of those who come after us,
We enter the little circle of each other's arms 
And the larger circle of lovers,
Whose hands are joined in a dance,
And the larger circle of all creatures, 
Passing in and out of life,
Who move also in a dance, 
To a music so subtle and vast that no one hears it
Except in fragments.

-- Wendell Berry

Howard Martin Blank and  Georgina Margaret Rennie - married on this day, 1975.

Howard Martin Blank - died on this day, 2006.

Always loved; always remembered.  Dancing into the future with joy, as he would have me do.